The 3 Secrets Healthy, Fit Women Know That You Don’t (Yet!)

Growing up, I was fortunate to be raised in an environment where food was more than just sustenance—it was a reflection of nature’s rhythms. We ate locally grown foods, in season, and everything was traditionally cooked, with minimal processing. The “processing” in my household was home-based—nothing like the ultra-processed foods we see dominating store shelves today. This upbringing gave me a very neutral relationship with food. For me, food has always been functional—a source of fuel and nourishment, not tied to emotions or stress. I never felt that food had to complete me when something else was missing in my life.

As I began working with women, many of whom were dealing with inflammation, chronic diseases, low energy, and weight struggles, I often heard a similar refrain: “You don’t know, Mihaela. You’ve never been really sick. You’ve never had a debilitating chronic disease or been overweight.” These comments led me to reflect deeply on my own thinking patterns and habits around food, exercise, sleep, and other lifestyle factors. I became an observer of my own life and how I approached health and fitness, which ultimately helped me understand the differences between women who thrive in their health and those who struggle.

This reflection brought me to the realization of three key ways that healthy, fit women think and act differently from those who find themselves stuck in cycles of poor health.

Healthy women are decisive.
And here’s the biggest thing: Indecision is not about choosing between two actions—it’s about choosing to remain in familiar patterns of thinking and acting. It’s easy to stay in what’s comfortable, but it’s also costly. Sticking to familiar habits and thought patterns can drain your health, vitality, and even your relationships. Healthy women recognize this and make decisions quickly, choosing to step into new habits and ways of thinking that align with their health goals.

Healthy women have a plan.
Unhealthy women often find themselves reacting impulsively to cravings, stress, and habits. Food comes in, and it goes out, often without nourishing the body. But healthy women think ahead. They look at their current choices as investments in their future well-being. They understand that their actions today lay the foundation for the energy and vitality they’ll have tomorrow. Planning their meals, exercise, and rest becomes a cornerstone of their approach to life.

To the healthy, food is just food.
Many women who struggle with their health have an emotional relationship with food—whether it’s guilt, comfort eating, or stress eating. There’s often a deeper emotional meaning attached to every bite. In contrast, healthy women see food for what it is: fuel and nourishment. When you can see food neutrally, as a tool to nourish your body, it loses its power to control you. This shift is incredibly liberating and allows for more balanced, conscious eating.

So you might be wondering, “How can I start thinking and acting like a healthy woman?”

Make quick decisions: Women who struggle with their health often overthink and delay action. Healthy women make decisions quickly and confidently, whether it’s about what to eat, how to move, or when to rest.

Have a health plan: Unhealthy women often react to external pressures, while healthy women have a plan in place and work consistently toward their health and fitness goals.

Detach your emotions from food: Unhealthy women often have emotional ties to food, while healthy women see it as a tool to nourish their bodies and achieve their wellness goals.

Remember, health goes to the women who can handle it.
When you combine these three thoughts, you begin to create more health, energy, and vitality in your life.

P.S. If you’re ready to surround yourself with other women who are on their way to changing their thinking patterns and habits to become healthy, strong, fit, and vibrant, I invite you to join my Free Private Facebook Group: “Primal Wellness for Women over 40.” As a thank you for joining, you will receive a self-assessment questionnaire to help you determine if the reason you’re feeling tired, suffering from inflammation, pain, chronic disease, struggling with sleep issues, or dealing with hot flashes and other menopause symptoms can be attributed to toxins burdening your body. And if that’s the case, are you willing to embark on a detoxification program? You will discover all this from one simple and quick self -assessment. This could be the first step toward reclaiming your health and vitality.

I look forward to seeing you in the group and supporting you on your journey to optimal health!